Letters of  His Divine Grace A. C. Bhaktivedanta Swami Prabhupada


Bhaktivedanta Manor
28 July, 1973



Naiskarmi devi dasi
Evanston, Illinois



My dear Naiskarmi devi dasi,

Please accept my blessings. I beg to acknowledge receipt of your letter dated 3rd July. You are exactly correct when you write that Krishna has benedicted you with a first class husband. In Vedic society no girl was allowed to remain independent and unmarried. Independence for women means they become like prostitutes, struggling to capture some man who will take care of her. In this way the so called independent woman has to work very hard to make herself attractive by artificially wearing cosmetics—mini skirts and so many other things.

Independence Of Women and Vedic Society

Formerly the girl would be married to a suitable boy at a very early age, say six years old. But although a girl was married early she did not stay with her husband immediately, but was gradually trained in so many ways how to cook, clean and serve her husband in so many ways—up until the time of her puberty. So all the time there was no anxiety because a girl would know—I have got a husband, and the boy would know I have got this girl as my wife. Therefore when the boy and girl would come of age there was no chance of illicit sex-life. And the psychology is – the first boy that a girl accepts in marriage, that girl will completely give her heart to, and this attachment on the girls side for her husband becomes more and more strong, thus if a girls gets a good husband—one who has accepted a bona fide spiritual master and is firmly fixed up in his service, automatically the wife of such a good husband inherits all the benefits of his spiritual advancement. So you are fortunate. Go on in this present attitude, serve your husband always and in this way your life will be perfect, and together husband and wife go back home—Back to Godhead.

I hope you are well.

Your ever well wisher,
A.C. Bhaktivedanta Swami


  1. It is not true that all independent women are prostitutes, this is a very offensive statement towards women, and it`s not true that every independent woman is full of make up, wear a mini skirt and looks for men. Most are simply studying, working and getting on with life, busy with so many other activities. I would like to ask to the person that published this article if all the independent women that he/she may know are prostitutes? Plus, this is Srila Prabhupada letter which was privately written to someone. As you can see the lady in question was lucky to find a first class husband, good, in vedic times to have first class men around was obviously the norm. Now we are in Kali Yuga, where you can`t find first class men. Is it wrong for women to have independence when no first class men aren’t available? I think majority of people will agree with if a woman is educated and able to work , she will be able fend for herself in case she has to run from an abusive marriage.
    I would like to notify the admin of this page, that I’ve found this post embedded on a face book profile belonging to a woman hater character, and obviously likes to use Srila Prabhupada private letters to justify his hatred towards women with the excuse that a spiritual masters also claims that independent women are prostitutes. I really hope the admin can really understand the situation. So many women are running away from Iskon because of this kind of attitude. Imagine being called a prostitute, by odd lunatic men, just for being pursuing an education and not getting married at puberty.


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